Friday, May 6, 2011
Sometimes Date Night Sucks
No matter how hard you try (or don't try for that matter) date night can fall flat. Plans fail, attitudes arise, communication break downs occur, expectations deflate and it just sucks!
A couple weeks ago (yep that would be after I started writing on how to have a great date night) Ramy and I had one of the worse date nights in quite awhile. Ramy's plans for our night didn't pan out, there was a miscommunication with our sitter, so she didn't arrive until well after 8pm, and we were both tired and cranky from our busy day. We were okay to rise above all of this as we walked out the door. We were just going to jump in the car and enjoy some time outside of the house. But we weren't even a mile away from the house when I said something with the intentions of being funny and it was misunderstood. When he questioned why I was being like that, I got defensive then he got defensive, then we both shut down. The rest of the night was a wash.
I hate when this happens! I sat there going through ways I could reverse what just happened but irritation kept bubbling up and my attitude shifted from wanting to find a solution to focusing on the problem again. It was hard not to conclude that Date Night was useless or a waste of time. But I know better.
Date night is dependent on people, and people are not perfect in anything we do. The hope is that you can get it right the majority of the time. And sometimes it just takes practice to get there. It's important to start the night off by choosing to have a good attitude. Remember that things will arise to make the night imperfect, but your outlook will help you get through it. (I learned this best through Karin and Brandon's date they shared last week.) I also have learned to choose my battles. Sometimes it just isn't worth it nit picking everything that bothers me. Especially on date night, I try my best to let the little things just roll off me. We also have made a rule to not discuss "hot topics" on our date. For instance, don't have a budget meeting during date night dinner...it never ends well! And if in the end the night still sucks, make sure that you dust yourself off and try, try again next week!
What's your solution for getting through a crappy date night?