Thursday, April 7, 2011

Avoid the I don't knows

Make a plan ahead of time.

This may seem obvious, but not so.  I can't tell you how many times date night suddenly arrives and nothing has been planned.  There is either not a babysitter for the kiddos or your looking at your date saying, "What do you wanna do?" Only to get back, "I dunno know, what do you want to do?" (On these nights, my husband is usually driving towards the freeway without a destination as I am frantically using my urbanspoon app to come up with a restaurant, praying we don't need a reservation.)

Here is the solution:

* If you have kids: Have a standing commitment with a babysitter. Budget the babysitter in and find someone you can count on to come hang with the kids every (Mon? Tues? Wed?...)day night.  Or ask your mom, if she is close by, to take the kids once a week.

* Take Turns planning the night: It sucks when you are always the one having to come up with the plan, or when you are constantly being dragged to something you don't necessarily want to do...again.

*Start thinking about it ahead of time... Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance.  This is where making reservations would come into play.

* Make sure you are showered and shaved ;)


  1. 1. Urbanspoon? I'm getting it.
    2. Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance - wise women, you.
    3. Showered & shaved...

  2. In response:
    1. Urbanspoon, according to my taste, has the most reliable ratings. Def get it.
    2. Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance: my dad always says it, and i usually roll my eyes in response but secretly think, "ya know, he has a point."
    3. Showered & shaved: This one is always the hardest one for me. I hate to admit it, but somedays I am lucky if I can get a shower in before dinner time!

  3. These are great ideas! I also like finding a couple who will trade babysitting to lessen the cost for the date nights. This works especially well if the other family lives close by and has the same number of kids. (It feels more fair that way.)

  4. Even after being married for 21 years, this is a much needed reminder. Thank you. I'm looking forward to reading more. ~ Michelle

  5. YankeeAmanda: Thanks for checking in! Next week I am going to write about the babysitting co-op! My friend has a pretty clever system that I can't wait to tell you about!