Here's your assignment:
Seriously, do this: Take a moment on your own and write down at least 10 things you have always wanted to do with your mate...outside of the bedroom that is! Don't put limitations on money or destination. Make it your bucket list; a wish list of all those adventures you want to seek out before you die. Dream as big as you would like, but remember the simple things too. Next, ask your mate to do the same and then come together with your lists.
Ramy and I have been counseling couples for about 2 years now, and this is an assignment we always give out on the first day we meet (along with committing to a date night!) Time and time again, it is eye opening for couples to see each others lists. I often hear, "Really? I didn't know you wanted to do that?!" Not only will you potentially learn something new about your partner, you will also have a list of things to do for date night. Now obviously some of these might be immediately out of reach, but if you have dreams of eating gelato in front of the Trevi Fountain in Rome, there is no better time than the present to start talking about ways you can actually achieve that goal together. It will more likely happen if it's out in the open than bottled up inside of you.
Ultimately, this assignment will show you how to increase intimacy outside the bedroom (which then of course can lead to greater intimacy inside the bedroom too!)